Why do men complain so much about women being gold diggers and not good women?

Just wanted to share a post I read on a friend's page on Facebook...
I think it's interesting enough to be shared...

Why do men complain so much about women being gold diggers and not good women? The women outnumber men 2 to 1. U have choices! It's your fault you continuously choose the wrong women. Take some responsibility and stop being so bitter. Learn to decipher a womans actions instead of her words. There are lots of good women out here.

First things first. Do you even know what's a good woman for you? Your friend may have a great wife, but she might not be a great wife for you. Women have a habit of going with their heart. Men go with whatever sweet things a woman whispers in his ear. When a woman truly loves a man she shows it in her actions. You can see her eyes light up when you enter the house. She may curse you out when you hurt her but she may turn around and cook you a nice dinner the same day. You say all women are gold diggers. I say that no matter what traits a woman says she wants in a man she will still, more than likely fall for love. Women don't really expect you to be perfect or have everything together. Actually most women don't mind helping you reach greatness. Unfortunately most have helped the wrong men. So she might come off a bit like a gold digger wanting you to have it all together. This only means that you will have to invest more time in getting her to trust you and allow her feelings to grow stronger for you.

Why do you think so many women have no good men?? It's not always low self esteem. Often times it's just plain old love. If you are a lawyer and you want a stay at home wife, you can't date the lady who wants to be a teacher. That's not going to make you happy. If you are a drug dealer you can't date the lady that wants to be a DEA officer. More than likely she is going to want you to stop selling drugs. If you are a abusive, no good man who cheats all the time, you are probably going to end up having problems out of that beautiful, educated lady with high self esteem. It's only going to be so long before she gets sick and tired of you and stops being a good woman to you. It's best you get a woman with low self esteem if you know you have no intentions of being a good man. If you want to be rich and your girlfriend is ok with being average, then she may not be supportive of all your hard work and hours spent away from her working on your career. If you want kids and your woman doesn't then more than likely this will cause problems in the long run. Some of you men choose women by how phat her booty is, how pretty she is, or how good her credit is. None of those traits make a woman good. Some of you even choose women on the count of her not being highly attractive. You assume that she will be a better woman to you because she isn't highly sought after. Some men.. You just have it all wrong. Yes, you have to be attracted to a person, but it's really what's on their insides that's going to help enhance your life. Common interests, common goals. Balance is what it's all about.

Your biggest problem should not be finding a good woman, but finding a woman that you connect with. A woman that you adore that also adores you back. Women have to be chased and after a while if she is truly into you she will show some signs of liking the chase. If you've been chasing a woman for 8 months and she is still not giving you the time of day and making you as an important person in her life, then you have to move on. Some men you judge what's a good woman on how long she takes to have sex with you. Just because she held out for 4 months with you while she was sexing someone else doesn't make her a good woman. A good woman is a woman that is going to make life easier for you. She is going to give you joy and inspiration. She is not going to talk down to you in a negative manner for no reason. She will treat you as what you could become instead of what you currently are. That is the trait of a good woman. Ask women how many of them have done that for a man that was pretty much a loser or didn't appreciate her. I'm sure more than a few will take claim to this. Relationships are all about compatibility and balance. You don't both have to be on the same level. Just on the same page. Common goals.

What woman really wants to be the woman sitting at home crying while her rich husband is out cheating with whatever groupie he met? What woman wants to be abused and unable to leave because she has no money. All of that will only take a toll on a woman's self esteem.

All most women want is a good man. A man that will be good to them. A man they will be able to trust. Someone who will put them first and not just say love but walk in love and be a good loving man. Yeah she might want you to buy her nice things sometimes, but that doesn't make her a gold digger. You call women gold diggers but ask the playboy why he has so many good women chasing him. He's probably sexing her right. He's probably saying all the right things to her. He's probably always dressed well when he see's her. He probably comes off as very exciting. Men need to learn to pick up some of the good traits of bad men. If you are a good man and you are displaying the right characteristics you will always win. Good men don't finish last. Good, boring men finish last.. Even when you find a good woman she must love and adore you. Rather it's a man or a woman it is quite difficult to continuously be a good and supportive mate to a person that you are not in love with. Love is the common connection that makes life beautiful. It is what makes a person look out for your best interest. It is the thing that makes your mate want to see you smiling and happy.

Good women are bountiful. So if you once again choose a bad woman blame yourself. I personally think men who are complaining need to try a little harder in attaining the woman they desire and let those fears go. Stop being just as materialistic and using material to choose a mate. Choose substance first.

HUNGER IN THE MIDST OF ABUNDANCE?

From a Gentleman's point of view

How can i buy a car i have not tested? Even worse when the car has been tested and used by previous clients? Lets say i was going in for a new car, I might just decide to give the seller the benefit of the doubt but even at that, hmmm not to talk of a fairly used car? HELL NO! the car must be test driven to make sure i dont pay for garbage.

Sure you must be wondering what am all about but really dis is something i just have to share especially since the lady i find myself in a relationship now refuses to let me test her already used engine under the excuse of religion. Not to say i am not into religion myself, but lets get real here. This same religion talks about "for better for worse" so at least i should know what i am going into before i do, so i wont come out.

I speak for myself but i am sure a lot of others would take sides with me. Ladies please dont think i am writing this piece just because i am a man but have you asked yourself wat you would do if you got married to a man and realised he cannot satisfy you in bed, or mayb his sexual urge doesnt match yours?

I dont have too much to say but then left to me alone, dis whole virginity thing is overated. You want me to buy the car but you dont want me to test it.

VERY UNREALISTIC I MUST SAY.

Happiness: What really is it, and how can one find it?

There is often a relativity attached to happiness, to different people, it means different things. Quoting from the movie; The pursuit of happiness, “It was right then that I started thinking about Thomas Jefferson on the Declaration of Independence and the part about our right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. And I remember thinking how did he know to put the pursuit part in there? That maybe happiness is something that we can only pursue and maybe we can actually never have it. No matter what. How did he know that?”

This was the perception Chris Gardner had about the subject. For him, happiness was an abstraction that could never be attained, thus he comforted himself by deriving his own form of satisfaction of mind from the idea that he could only pursue without ever attaining it. It will be a tragedy to live a life devoid of happiness or the satisfaction that derives from it. The lack of it drives men to a sad depressed life which often culminates unpleasant manifestations.

The elusive “something” Mr. Gardner referred to is aptly defined by major dictionaries as the quality or state of being happy, joyous, joyful, blithe, cheerful, merry, contented, gay, blissful, satisfied, etc. People occasionally do experience fleeting moments of emotional torrents which can qualify as happiness for which externalities such as material possession, a love relationship, personal/group accomplishments etc serve as the causative factors.

The debate upon the subject matter may endure till eternity. For me, I am yet to define my happiness, a lot of us in Nigeria and the poorer countries of the world today believe that happiness can be equated to material possessions; it is understandable why it is so with us, pervasive poverty made it so. But in spite of the daunting challenges of survival under these harsh socio-political and economic conditions, some of us still have an enduring perspective to the meaning of happiness which transcends material possessions. I admire Chris Gardner’s perception yet I am afraid to concur with it. What is your perception of happiness? What does happiness really mean to you? Share your views; it may help shape that of another person in a more enduring manner.

Happy Women's Day!

International Women's Day!

So it's women's day and I say Ayekoo to all divas because you made it happen for you. Kudos!

So I celebrated my birthday recently and I was not one bit excited, not that I wasn't grateful for the gift of life and good health but I look around me and all I can boast of is...?

What? God! I'm in my late 20s and all I can be proud of is the fact that I could pass for way less than how old I truly am.

So, here I am with no job, not yet married, no kids, no car and very little cash. What's divalicious about this when most of my mates at least have a job or is married or has a kid or two, or a combination of the two of the afore mentioned?

Well as EziDiva, I know all fingers are not the same. And who says I can't have it all? I'm still young (ignore my age), beautiful, gifted and good at whatever i set my mind on doing. It's just a matter of time. I just need me some patience as I watch my success unfold... :-)

If you consider yourself a Diva, know that you can have it all too sometimes all at once or they'll come in bits. No need comparing yourself to some one and feeling inferior or wishing to be in another's shoes or being envious about another's success. Be genuinely happy for those who have made it and wish them well so you can have people to share your good moments with. Always look on the bright side, look good and enjoy life while you have it.

Happy Women's Day!

MY FIRST

1ST BLOG

I should have done this first but hey what does it matter? i decided to start my blog when i figured i had a lot of things to share and quite some time to spare. now am wondering is a blog supposed to be like ur diary? guess not? well everyone has a reason for blogging i guess. Blogging is fun and hey i intend making the most of it. Theres so much to learn from different people and this platform sure should aid that.

TADA

is love enough?

LOVE LOVE LOVE

Hmmmm, every woman wants to end up with her one true love.. the one who would sweep her off her feet, her "knight in shining armour", the guy who makes her heart skip a beat, makes her go gaga and all that but the question is "is love enough?"

Sometime back, i used to think love was all that mattered. You just had to "click" for it to work. It dint matter if the guy was rich, poor, ill ..... the most important factor was love.

Growing up i began to change my perception, not because i did not find someone to sweep me off my feet, (trust me there were a number of them), but because i realised sometimes love isn't enough. Wondering what i mean? Ill give you an example of what i mean and maybe you'll see things from my own perspective.

Imagine meeting a guy who has it all and when i say has it all i don't mean rich and all that but he's the one who makes you tick, makes you smile from the heart, a perfect gentleman and all you are waiting for is the day he would propose and you would say yes even before he completes the sentence. You decide to have your blood groups checked and then thunder strikes. The doctor says if you get married, there is a possibilty of having sick children.

Now tell me, is love enough to make two lovers get married and risk the possibilty of having sick children, putting the child through unbearable pain no amount of money can stop? Someone would talk of checking the genotype of the baby before giving birth. From the spiritual point of view, is abortion not a sin? From the medical point of view, are abortions always hundred percent safe? What if complications arise and u are never able to have children anymore?

Is love enough to make you marry someone who has no job?
Is love enough to make you marry someone your whole family despises and opposes the union?
Is love enough to make you marry someone from a different religion with different beliefs?
Is love enough to make you marry someone you just found out to be your parent's murderer?

IS LOVE REALLY ENOUGH?